If someone checks your phone
If someone checks your phone, controls your choices or frightens you, you are not alone, and it is not your fault. Free, confidential help is below.
In short: If someone checks your phone or controls you, Splash can help: a PIN or Face ID lock, a decoy PIN that opens a harmless screen, discreet mode with neutral notifications, a panic wipe and a quick-exit button. In the UK call 999 in an emergency or Refuge on 0808 2000 247; in the US call 911 or 1-800-799-7233.
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These lines are free and confidential. They won’t judge, and they won’t make you do anything you’re not ready for.
United Kingdom
Elsewhere, your local emergency number works first. Numbers checked October 2026. If one doesn’t work, please tell us.
If someone checks your phone
Encryption protects the copy on our server. It does not stop someone who has your unlocked phone. These tools help.
- PIN lock
- Asks for a PIN every time Splash opens. Face ID, Touch ID or your fingerprint can unlock it instead, with the PIN as the backup.
- Decoy PIN
- A second PIN that opens an empty Splash. Your real data stays hidden and untouched, and sync and partner updates pause. You can also choose to erase the real data when the decoy is used.
- Panic wipe
- Tap the shark three times quickly on the lock screen to erase everything on this phone. Splash then opens fresh, like it was just installed.
- Discreet mode
- Swaps sensitive words for neutral ones on screen, and keeps notification text neutral, like “Reminder”. Lock Screen timers on iPhone are off unless you switch them on, and never name a medicine.
- No account needed
- Without an account, there’s no Splash profile, no email and no cycle data on our servers. Like any website, our host briefly keeps request logs (IP address and time).
- Sharing you control
- Everyone you share with is in one list, and you pick exactly what each person sees. Stop sharing any time, and their app says sharing ended. Pause instead, and they keep seeing your last update with no sign that it’s paused.
Coercive control can look like this
- Checking your phone, messages or apps, or demanding your passwords
- Tracking your periods or contraception to control you
- Pressuring you about sex or pregnancy, or stopping you using contraception
- Cutting you off from friends, family or money
- Making you feel scared to say no
Coercive and controlling behaviour is a crime in England and Wales, and support lines can explain your options wherever you are.
If you’re worried about reproductive health data (US)
Laws differ from state to state, and this isn’t legal advice. Here is what exists, so you can decide for yourself.
- Without an account, your logs exist only on your phone. Without an account, there’s no Splash profile, no email and no cycle data on our servers. Like any website, our host briefly keeps request logs (IP address and time).
- With an account, if we were legally compelled, this is everything we could provide: your account email and sign-up date; the locked copy of your data (ciphertext we can’t read) and when it synced, with its size; which categories a partner share includes (not the data itself); push notification addresses, and notification text and send times (neutral by default); our host’s short-lived request logs: IP address, device type and time. Your logs stay locked, because we don’t have the key. See what we can see.
- Your phone itself is outside our control. Someone with access to it, or a forensic copy, could see what’s on it. A panic wipe erases Splash’s data on that phone.
- For legal questions, the Repro Legal Helpline (If/When/How) offers free, confidential legal information.